Nugget of Wisdom #2: Trust the Timing of Your Life
When Life Doesn't Unfold the Way You Expect It
This Saturday, July 18 marks the 1-year anniversary of my mom’s passing. I’m often in awe of Father Time and how fast and slow he can move at the same time. On one hand it feels like it was just yesterday that we were getting our daily steps in together, experimenting with new recipes and talking about the latest political mishaps...as well as our spiritual pursuits. And on the other hand, it feels like it's been an eternity since my soul was soothed by my mom’s uplifting voice, caring touch and nourishing love that could be felt from her gaze….and through her cooking.
Death brings intense grief and sadness, but also provides a profound opportunity to reflect, process and grow in a whole different way than normal. I’m grateful that I didn’t dive straight back into work after she passed away—slowing down and going inward is just what I needed. It opened me up to a lot of insights—some were new, other were things I already knew, but didn’t understand the depth of.
The first Nugget of Wisdom I shared was back in November in a piece I wrote called, Together, stronger and wiser. Since then there have been many new insights that I’ve experienced. I have been holding them close to my heart and have finally been putting words to them. For now, Nugget of Wisdom #2 is... trust the timing of your life, the divine is always on your side.
Nugget of Wisdom #2 —Trust the Timing of Your Life
What I’ve learned and continue to learn is that there are no accidents, coincidences or mistakes. Everything is divinely orchestrated...even if we don’t always understand it in the moment. My mom was hospitalized for 18 days last July. During that time my sister and I each took 12 hours shifts so that one of us could always be with her. Within days, a few of my aunts and uncles came down from Toronto to check on our mom/their loving sister and provide support to my sister and I. I made it a point to make sure we cooked all her food at home and brought each and every meal to the hospital. This was really important to me as I wanted her food to be filled with prayers, love and healing energy. Once my mom was in the ICU, additional aunts, uncles and cousins came from out of town. On the day she passed, she had a very special visit from our family guru, filled with grace, blessings and love. And at the moment she actually transitioned, her hospital room was packed—she was completely surrounded by all our family singing prayers to help her soul’s journey toward God. After a very moving funeral service, my sister and I were able to fly to India with two of my Uncles to perform her final rites which were also filled with so many blessings, grace and love. And, then when we returned home, we were able to gather with friends and family to help us adjust to our new reality.
If my mom had passed during our current Covid-19 pandemic, none of the above would have been possible. What I learned and am still learning is to trust the timing of life...even when we don’t rationally understand why. Everything happens for a reason. And in due time, when we’re ready, it’ll be revealed to us.
My heart goes out to all those families dealing with the passing of a loved one right now. I can only image how intense and difficult it must be—on an already heartbreaking life event. Although it does not make sense right now, when the time is right, I do believe that even this pandemic’s lessons and wisdom will be revealed to us.
Sending each of you infinite love and light,
Kajal
